How To Build A New Healthy Relationship After Emotional Abuse?
It’s very unfortunate to know that out of all the people in a relationship, almost one third of them experience emotional abuse. But this doesn’t mean that all the relationships you will be in will turn abusive. It’s very important for all of us to learn to have a healthy relationship after being in an emotionally abusive relationship.
I know it’s easier said than done but who said it’s impossible? I know you are broken, I know you are scared, I’ve been there! One thing I learnt from my emotionally abusive relationship is to never give the key to your happiness to someone else.
Being out of an emotionally abusive relationship is in itself a huge achievement but you should never forget that life goes on and you have to learn to move on with it. One bad apple will not ruin the rest of the apples if you remove it on time.
You should move on in life, get to know new people because there is someone out there made just for you. What’s important here is that you should not let the demons of your past relationships haunt you and destroy your current relationship.
To help you with the same, here are 10 ways you can have a healthy relationship after being in an abusive one. Don’t let your past interfere with your present.
How To Have A Healthy Relationship After Emotional Abuse?
1. Take time to recover:
we are social beings and out of nature we are constantly looking for a partner. Once you are out of an emotionally abusive relationship, take some time off to heal. You should not directly jump into another relationship although you’ll feel connected to many. Take a break and try to heal first, a new relationship will not fill the void.
2. Read about both abusive and healthy relationships:
if you have been in an emotionally abusive relationship for a long time, the lines of what is normal and what’s not must have been erased. It’s better to first know what a healthy as well as abusive relationship looks like.
3. Trust your instincts but be practical:
you are going to have a strong set of instincts after coming out of your abusive relationship. You’ll see a lot of red flags and it’s best to trust your instincts but also engage in some confrontation because sometimes things aren’t how they seem to be.
4. Do not be in a hurry:
you must have heard, “one should stay away from hurry, worry and curry!” Take it slow, you have been through a lot and the process of healing is going to take time so don’t be in a hurry to heal or be with someone else or find happiness. Let it come naturally to you.
5. Beware of your triggers:
in relationship PTSD you tend to experience panic attacks and anxiety when you are in the presence of your trigger. Take note of what triggers your trauma from past emotional abuse like smell, place, noice, etc and try to engage in some coping techniques so that your triggers don’t overpower you.
6. Have a support system:
it’s important to have a group of people who understand you and support you in tough times. You one will understand you more than the people who have been through emotional abuse as well. Try joining some support groups of emotional abuse survivors.
7. Engage in self-care:
self-care is a must for all. It helps in relaxing and calming your mind as well as body. To keep that stress and anxiety of emotional abuse in a relationship at bay, make sure you take some time off for self-care. Look after yourself because a happy mind = happy life.
8. Learn to trust again:
I know your trust has been broken but you need to learn to trust others again. Take your time to learn more about the people you spend time with, you can even test their loyalty towards you but when they quality don’t pull away. Trust the people who trust you. You can take baby steps for now and perhaps build on it with time.
9. Talk to your present about your past:
let your present partner know about your emotionally abused relationship. Talk to them about their behaviors that remind you of your abusive partner. Talk to them about your feelings, fears and triggers. Let them know what bothers you and what makes you feel safe.
10. Seek professional help:
nothing beats getting professional help. Mental health experts are there to help you with things that you cannot sort out on your own. Consider getting therapy if it becomes difficult for you to heal from an abusive relationship of your own.
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That’s all Folks!
I hope this blog helps you heal from an emotionally abusive relationship and helps you learn how to have a healthy relationship after emotional abuse. Do share the blog with your friends and family so that no emotionally abused person is left alone.
Thanks for reading.
Take care and stay safe.