Are Narcissists Insecure? Let’s Find Out…

Last Update on January 11, 2023 : Published on January 11, 2023
Are narcissists insecure Let’s Find Out…

There is no denying the fact that dealing with a narcissist is a complete task. They are always trying to make you feel bad about yourself or tell you how perfect of an individual they are. In fact, ‘empathy’ is not even in their dictionary.

Have you ever wondered why narcissists behave this way? What can be the reason behind narcissists being so disconnected from reality? If you ask a narcissist, they’ll obviously point out a million problems in you but never uncover their vulnerabilities.

It is very evident that narcissists build a persona for the external world where they are all so confident and well put together. But how is it possible for someone to not have any weak points? It is all an act, a facade to cover up their insecurities and worries.

Don’t believe me? Here are 6 reasons why narcissists are insecure and their disturbing traits and behaviors are just to mask their insecurities and vulnerabilities.

6 Narcissistic Traits That Prove They’re Insecure


1.They feel inadequate

If you observe a narcissist closely, you will notice that they are never satisfied with their work or anything they do. They are constantly seeking perfection, no matter what they do they always want it to be better. Therefore, that sass comes from the uncomfortable feeling of inadequacy.

2.Their childhood experiences have not been very smooth

The early years are very crucial in developing our personality. In the case of narcissistic personality disorder, there is a high chance these individuals have constantly been told that they aren’t enough. Their insecurities stem from their childhood experiences because the validation they were always seeking didn’t come through.

3.They are anxious about their relationships

Narcissists are not good at maintaining relationships. One of the biggest problems narcissists face is approaching a relationship, they don’t know how much to give in and what to expect. They tend to freak out when they start getting serious about their relationships or get too involved (personal or professional).

4.They are quick to judge and view others in a negative light

Narcissistic people do not put in much effort to get to know other people. This trait also stems from their insecurity. They do not want to know more about people because they fear that other people have ill intentions for them. Therefore, they build a shield around themselves and do not really let anyone enter it nor do they make an effort to connect with other people.

5.They fail to manage their emotions

They strongly believe that being vulnerable or emotional is a weakness. This thought can come from the way you were treated as a child. It can be because you didn’t receive much love because you were ridiculed when you expressed emotions as a child. Therefore, upon growing up you ignore your feelings and suppress your emotions.

6.They deep down wish to stay alone

Even though they spend a lot of time surrounded by people, deep down they really want to be alone. In public, they are always wearing a mask and have a persona that they can’t break out of. They get extremely tired of faking things that they feel very comfortable with when they are alone.

Do Narcissists Know They Are Insecure?

Do Narcissists Know

According to experts, narcissists are plagued with low self-esteem issues, low confidence, and extreme insecurity. Most narcissistic traits are a mask to cover up these vulnerabilities. However, it is not very clear whether they are aware of their insecurities or not.

Even when a narcissist is aware of them being insecure, they fail to understand their feelings and are incapable of addressing their feelings. Most of the time narcissists are so full of themselves that they just choose to ignore their insecurities but can’t control their insecure response.

They have a lot of insecurities, insecurities about their looks, their performance, their success, etc. Deep down the insecurities have wounded them so much that everything they do is to cover up their insecurities. Each behavior is X 2 because they fear their insecurities might peak through their mask.

That’s All Folks!

I hope you found this blog helpful, interesting, and thought-provoking. If you ask me, are narcissists insecure? Of course, yes, narcissists are so insecure that each behavior is a response initiated by their insecurities. Do share this blog with your friends and family so that we can all understand narcissists better.

Thanks for reading.

Take care and stay safe.

About The Author

Kirti Bhati
Kirti Bhati

I am an English literature (major) and psychology (minor) graduate from St. Bede’s College, Shimla. Postgraduate in Clinical psychology from IIS University, Jaipur. She has published a Research paper on Music therapy in the military population and Workplace stress in a national seminar conducted by Fortis hospital (gurugram) and international seminar conducted by St. Bede’s College, Shimla, Respectively. Authored a dissertation work on ‘effect of social media addiction on the mental and physical well-being in adolescents’ Currently working at calm sage as a writer.

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