Healthy Ways To Deal With Break-Up Guilt

Last Update on November 30, 2022 : Published on November 30, 2022
Healthy Ways To Deal With Break-Up Guilt

We are all social beings and having relationships is inevitable. From the time we are born to the time we die, we share different types of relationships with different people. Most of these relationships run smoothly, our romantic relationships require the most amount of effort.

When you fall in love with someone, you like everything they do. But as the relationship moves further, crossing each stage of a relationship, you can face some challenges. Facing those problems can be difficult but most of us overcome them.

How one chooses to overcome relationship issues is completely dependent on what kind of challenge one has been facing. Have you noticed only a few of us find the correct partner on the first attempt, rest of us have to go through a couple of relationships to finally find someone we can spend our entire life with?

Till the time you find yourself a perfect match, you face a few breakups and those can be challenging. The worst is the guilt that comes with it. Today we will explore a healthy way to deal with break-up guilt.

But first, let’s understand break-up guilt a little better…

What Is Break-up Guilt?


Break-up guilt is the guilt that one experiences after they have broken up with their partner. Break guilt usually happens when you choose to part ways when you or your partner has not cheated or wronged you in any way.

Some people don’t even break up with their partner even when the relationship has reached an impasse. This is because they start having the break-up guilt even before you pull the plug on the relationship.

Break-up guilt is the feeling that you get after you break up with someone, it kills you to hurt them but a break-up is best for both of you. Sometimes a breakup is what you need but hurting the other person’s feelings is what gives you cold feet.

However, if things aren’t working fine for the two of you, letting go is better than holding on. If you have chosen to part ways and are feeling guilty, here’s what you can do…

Healthy Ways To Deal With Break-Up Guilt


  1. Be honest with your partner: your partner must know the real reason for your breakup. Don’t just inform them that you’re parting ways and ghost them completely. You owe them an explanation and some time to process the breakup.
  2. Feel your emotions: acceptance is very important especially when you are dealing with overwhelming emotions like break-up guilt. Make sure you acknowledge your emotions and feelings and process them rather than suppressing your emotions.
  3. Remember why you broke up: sometimes break-up guilt takes over and makes you regret and overturn your decision. Whenever guilt makes you feel bad, recall the reasons behind your breakup.
  4. Take responsibility for your part in the breakup: it’s important to own up to the part you’ve played in breaking the relationship up. The blame game will only worsen your break-up guilt. Therefore, know your shortcomings and expectations that might have led to your breakup.
  5. Remember you’re not responsible for your partner’s happiness: you might play a part in your partner’s happiness but you’re not responsible for their happiness. If the relationship is not making you happy, it’s okay to break up.
  6. Make sure your partner has supported you: there is one thing that you can do to reduce the breakup guilt, make sure your partner has someone to support them through the tough breakup that you’ve just had.
  7. Trust yourself: trust is very important at this point. You need to know that your decision about the breakup was right. You need growth in life and when your relationship pulls you down, letting go is the right thing to do.

That’s All Folks!

I hope you found this blog about breakup guilt and how to deal with break-up guilt helpful, informative, and interesting. Do share this blog with your friends and family and especially those people who are going through a breakup.

Thanks for reading.

Take care and stay safe.

About The Author

Kirti Bhati
Kirti Bhati

I am an English literature (major) and psychology (minor) graduate from St. Bede’s College, Shimla. Postgraduate in Clinical psychology from IIS University, Jaipur. She has published a Research paper on Music therapy in the military population and Workplace stress in a national seminar conducted by Fortis hospital (gurugram) and international seminar conducted by St. Bede’s College, Shimla, Respectively. Authored a dissertation work on ‘effect of social media addiction on the mental and physical well-being in adolescents’ Currently working at calm sage as a writer.

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