Ditch The Doubt: How NOT to Question Everything (And Trust Yourself Again)
Life, to me, is often a puzzling maze of decisions and an endless loop of “what ifs”. We’ve all been there, scratching our heads, asking ourselves hundreds of questions, and second-guessing our steps and decisions. But, what if I told you that you can learn to NOT question everything in life? Yep, you read it right.
We all go through phases of questioning everything – big or small – and why not? It’s a big world with too many choices to choose from and too many decisions to make. It’s no wonder we go dizzy with doubt and wonder if we’re on the right path in life.
Healthy self-reflection is good; it’s good to question some things, but when this pattern becomes too permanent to be comfortable, that’s when you need to put your foot down. Questioning everything in life is healthy, but it can also stop you from accepting things the way they are.
So, ready to stop questioning everything? Buckle your seatbelts and let me guide you through the ways you can stop questioning everything in your life.
Why You Might Be Questioning Everything in Life
First, let’s begin by understanding why you’re questioning everything. As I said, it’s healthy to question things, but too much doubt in the process can stop you from being your 100% confident self. You may quietly wonder at times, “Why do I question everything?” or “Why do I question myself this much?” Well, I have some answers for you.
You may find it difficult to make decisions because you’re constantly thinking, “What if I make the wrong decision?” You’re always anxious and can’t find it in yourself to think and decide on an outcome. This can also light up a lot of insecurities in you, an inability to focus, and even depressive thoughts.
At times, you may find yourself entangled in societal expectations so much that you live in constant fear of being unable to meet these expectations. This endless cycle can make you question everything. The dread or anxiety of making mistakes can cast a dark shadow of doubt over your decisions.
When you question your judgment, it can feel like walking around with heavy baggage on your shoulders. Every step you take is shadowed by the baggage and the burden of it all brings doubt in your heart. When you question everything in life, you start thinking too much and this overthinking in an overactive brain can drive you to a land far away where everything is seeped in the soup of doubt.
If this is something that you can relate to, then don’t fret. Keep reading to learn how NOT to question everything in life and relearn how to trust yourself once more.
How to Stop Questioning Everything?
1.Let life be imperfect:
Life isn’t all about perfection; it’s about making mistakes and falling, but also getting up and learning from your experiences. So, instead of thinking about how you fail at being perfect, try to embrace imperfections and view them as invaluable lessons toward a better future.
Don’t let yourself be lost in the sea of too much information and too much thinking. Choose your battles aka sources wisely and set boundaries on how much and what information you choose to take. Boundaries on what you should listen to and retain can help the spiral of overthinking.
3.Learn to live in the moment:
The best way to not question everything in life is to stay in the present moment. That can be achieved simply through mindfulness. Mindfulness allows you to let go of needless worries and concerns, and stay grounded in the moment.
4.Learn to embrace calmness:
Another way to not question everything is to learn how to be calm. When your mind is calm, your inner self stills. To calm the storm, the stillness of the shore is needed. You can find calm through meditation, coloring, walking in nature, reading, exercising, and so much more.
5.Seek a professional’s help:
Know that you’re not alone in questioning everything in life and overthinking. If you find it difficult to stop overthinking or questioning your reality, then speak to a professional. A psychologist or a counselor can help you work on your self-confidence and self-esteem, and teach you how to trust yourself once again.
6.Know that it isn’t helping you:
You need to understand that questioning everything is not helping you. Constantly questioning yourself can come from a fear of making mistakes, fear of uncertainty, or fear of not being important enough. When you question yourself, it means that your brain is trying to protect you from these fears. You need to realize that questioning everything – even out of fear – isn’t helping you.
7.View questioning everything as a strength:
We view the act of questioning everything as a sign of weakness, but instead of it being your weakness, questioning everything can be a sign of your strength. When you question everything, it shows that you’re curious, you self-reflect, and you’re open to seeing other perspectives. So, even when you’re trying not to question everything, don’t forget the plus sides of this double-edged sword.
How to Trust Yourself Once More?
“I can’t stop questioning everything” – if this has been your inner voice for some time now, then you might be doubting yourself for some time. Here are some ways you can quell your inner doubt and relearn how to trust yourself once more;
- Reflect on your past achievements and success. Remind yourself that you’ve achieved so much more and overcome so many challenges before that you can do it once again.
- Trust your gut as it is a formidable soldier. Your instincts will never lie to you, so try to listen to your gut when it’s possible. It will lead you in the right direction, more often than not.
- Take care of yourself – mentally and physically. When you’re rested and healed – body and mind – only then can you make sound judgment and not feel the need to question everything in your path.
- Stop the spiral of overthinking and do something that keeps you from it. Overthinking everything can make you doubt yourself more. If you come to a decision, then stand by it, even if it doesn’t turn out the way you wanted. Start small, but be firm.
Life is a series of ups and downs, but it’s also too precious to spend in constant self-questioning. Embrace the little things – even uncertainties – in life and learn to trust the process. Know that it’s OK to stumble, fall, and make mistakes; after all, no one learned to walk without falling and no one learned to succeed without making mistakes.
Say bye-bye to questioning everything and welcome self-trust. I hope the ways in this blog will help you learn how NOT to question everything in life and learn to trust yourself once more.
Live with confidence and trust yourself to accept the wonderful yet unpredictable process that is life. Let me know what you think about the ways I mentioned in this article in the comments below.
You’ve got this! Good Luck!