Am I Lonely? Take Our Loneliness Test to Find Out!

“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” — Michel de Montaigne

In the pursuit of finding ourselves, we often isolate ourselves from the outside world. Sometimes, to a point, where it becomes difficult to differentiate between loneliness and solitude. Loneliness, typically concealed behind smiles and social appearances, is an emotion that can impact you and me — equally.

It goes beyond the mere absence of others around us and transcends into the fragile connection we term — emotional connection. Watching out for signs of loneliness is a feat that requires not only inner factors of our hearts and minds but also external ones.

You can spot loneliness if you’re;

• Feeling disconnected from others
• Lacking meaningful connections and relationships
• Emotionally exhausted, drained, or numb
• Thinking negatively about your worthiness and self-image
• Struggling to maintain social connections
• Struggling to sleep, release stress, and keep up your appetite

This information is just a Professional assessment of loneliness. For a formal assessment and diagnosis of chronic loneliness, it is recommended that you speak to a professional counselor or therapist.

Note: Calm Sage understands the importance of privacy. Your responses are not shared with any third-party website, so you can rest assured of your privacy.

We also work diligently to provide you with instant results upon completing the test. The immediate result can help guide you to your next steps in seeking support and moving forward on the path of recovery.

Please note that this quiz is not an official test or diagnosis and can only offer an indication of your emotional loneliness levels. You should seek a mental health professional for an in-depth diagnosis.

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Loneliness Quiz: Are You Feeling Lonely?

Important: It is advised that you don’t skip any of the questions in the test. Just choose the answer that applies to you and try to be as honest as you can for the best result!

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1.

How often do you feel misunderstood by others?

• I rarely feel misunderstood
• I occasionally feel misunderstood
• I often feel misunderstood
• I feel misunderstood by others all the time

Please select a answer

2.

In a relationship, do you feel inadequate?

• I rarely feel this way
• I occasionally feel inadequate
• I often feel this way
• I feel inadequate and worthless

Please select a answer

3.

In a social gathering, do you feel left out?

• Rarely do I feel left out in my social circle
• Occasionally, I do. But not often
• I often feel like I’m being left out
• I feel like I don’t belong in my community

Please select a answer

4.

Do you feel happy the way you are right now?

• Yes, I am happy with myself
• I feel content if not happy
• I feel like I am sometimes happy
• No, I feel sad and empty

Please select a answer

5.

If you feel sad, do you know where to find support and companionship?

• Yes, I have a support system
• Not always, but I can always cheer myself up
• No. I lack a solid support system
• No. I have no one I can lean on

Please select a answer

6.

Do you think sad things or negative outcomes?

• Rarely. Things are OK in my life
• Often. When things are not going my way
• Sometimes. When things go wrong
• Always. There’s nothing happy in my life, it seems

Please select a answer

7.

How quickly can you make new connections?

• I rarely have trouble making new friends
• I often find it hard to talk to new people
• Making new friends makes me uncomfortable
• I am never comfortable talking to new people

Please select a answer

8.

Do you have a lot in common with people around you?

• Yes. I do have a few friends who share my interests
• I often feel like I have people I can share my interests with
• I don’t have that many people I share common interests with
• No. My loved ones and I don’t have common interests

Please select a answer

9.

Do you feel lacking or empty, even when you’re engaged in things?

• No. I feel content
• Sometimes, I feel this way
• I often feel this way
• I always feel empty

Please select a answer

10.

Do you feel that people around you appreciate your presence?

• I do feel appreciated
• I often feel appreciated in my circle of friends
• I feel underappreciated
• I always feel ignored or invisible

Please select a answer

11.

Do you have the confidence to begin new relationships?

• Yes, I feel comfortable with new relationships
• I often feel confident enough
• I feel like I’ll mess up new relationships
• I never have enough confidence in new relationships

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Severe Loneliness

You are experiencing high levels of loneliness in your life. You struggle with emotional connection and often feel alone even in the company of others. While you have casual friends you can hang out with, you don’t share many interests with them and often feel misunderstood. Trying to find social connections could make you feel emotionally drained. If you’re struggling with chronic loneliness, then it is strongly suggested you speak to a professional.

To combat loneliness, you can try these strategies:

• Consult a professional. A mental health professional can offer specialized support for severe loneliness.
• Connect with support groups.Online or offline groups that focus on loneliness and social isolation can connect you with others who understand and share similar experiences.
• Rebuild confidence. Start with small, manageable steps to rebuild your confidence and comfort in social interactions. You can work with a professional on this.

Moderate Loneliness

You are experiencing moderate levels of loneliness. While there are times when you feel an emotional connection with others, there are times when you feel alone and left out. Your relationships and friendships don’t always go beyond surface level as you can’t find meaningful connections within them. You also feel anxious, and sad, and have a low self-worth.

To combat moderate loneliness, you can try these ways:

• Make plans with friends. For once, you can take the lead and make plans with your friends to hang out. It might not always feel comfortable, but taking an active role can help you make a social connection.
• Seek support.You can also seek advice from therapists and counselors on how to combat loneliness. Working with counselors can help you understand the causes of your loneliness and come up with effective coping skills.
• Join social groups and clubs. You can also look for clubs and community groups that align with your interests. This can offer you a more structured and supportive environment for forming friendships and emotional connections.

Mild Loneliness

You are experiencing mild or occasional loneliness. We all feel lonely, and when we do, there are always people we can turn to for support and emotional connection. You have that and know when you can lean on others for social support. You have genuine and meaningful relationships in your life, and you often feel comfortable with them. However, there are times when you do feel lonely, but that’s OK.

Here are some ways you can chase your mild loneliness away:

• Find new hobbies. Figure out activities you feel passionate about. Finding hobbies where you can learn something new and find new connections can help you chase away loneliness.
• Reach out to your loved ones.There’s no harm in checking in with your loved ones. A quick text or a call can make you feel happy and can strengthen your connections, chasing away feelings of isolation.
• Meet new people..If you want to feel emotionally and socially connected, then you can attend events or volunteer. These activities can help you open up to new experiences and build connections with like-minded people.

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Disclaimer: This quiz is not medically accurate and does not define your personality. For an in-depth assessment, you can visit or contact a mental health professional.

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