You Have a Secure Attachment Style
There you have it! You have a secure attachment style which means you’re comfortable with intimacy and independence and tend to have healthy relationships. This attachment style is often considered the ideal attachment style. You can express your needs and boundaries well and trust your partner.
You can further improve your attachment style by:
- Continuing to work on your self-awareness and emotional intelligence
- Improving your communication skills
- Providing support to your partner and friends with different attachment styles
- Encouraging open communication and dialogue to address conflicts and issues in the relationship
You Have an Anxious Attachment Style
Your answers indicate that you might have an anxious attachment style. You often seek reassurance from others and constantly worry about your loved ones’ feelings. You might often seem preoccupied with the relationship and fear that your loved ones – friends, family, or partner – may abandon you at the drop of a hat.
You can work on your attachment styles by:
- Developing healthy self-soothing techniques to manage your insecurities and anxiety
- Communicating your needs and worries with your partner
- Building self-esteem and self-worth so that you can think and act independently in your relationships
- Seeking support and counseling from a professional to address any underlying issues, fears, and insecurities
You Have an Avoidant Attachment Style
So your answers indicate the presence of an avoidant attachment style. Well, this means that you value your independence and autonomy and need more emotional space in your relationships. You tend to avoid getting attached in your relationships and you value all the space you can get.
While there’s nothing wrong with having an avoidant attachment style, you can work on trusting others in your relationships by:
- Being more open and vulnerable in your relationships – romantic, platonic, or familial
- Slowly increasing emotional intimacy and becoming more aware of the walls you’ve erected around your heart
- Learning to communicate your need for space with your partner
- Seeking couples therapy or counseling to work on your emotional connection
You Have a Disorganized Attachment Style
There it is! Your results say that you might have a disorganized attachment style which means that you struggle with consistency and might feel conflicting emotions in your relationships. A disorganized attachment style can often be associated with past traumatic experiences or with having an unstable childhood.
Not to worry! You can work on improving your attachment issues and learn self-awareness skills by:
- Seeking therapy or counseling to address past trauma or any unresolved issues from your childhood
- Working on regulating your emotions and adopting healthy coping strategies to deal with conflicting emotions
- Developing healthy boundaries in your relationships and working on your communication skills
- Trying practices such as meditation or other exercises to help you manage your emotions and other issues you face in understanding your emotions in a relationship