Paranoid About Your Relationship? These Might Be The Causes! (& What To Do)

Last Update on October 12, 2022 : Published on October 13, 2022
Paranoid About Your Relationship

Keeping a track of your partner when they fail to reach home on time is acceptable, but if you go as far as using a tracking app or checking their phone without their consent, then it is unacceptable. This kind of behavior can border on paranoia and if this continues, then it could put your relationship with your loved one in jeopardy.

Not just that, but if you are constantly thinking or believing that your partner is plotting something against you or if you believe that they are lying or hiding something from you, then it all could point toward the signs of relationship paranoia.

Relationships are complicated, but when they seem to lack grounds and mutual trust, then they could turn sour instead of sweet. When you keep believing that your partner is lying or acting against you, then not only it could take the autonomy out of your relationship, but can also affect your overall health.

Below, let’s take a look at the signs, causes, and impact of relationship paranoia on your health and life, and what you can do to stop feeling paranoid about your relationship.

What Is Paranoia?

Paranoia is a term used to describe symptoms of psychosis or psychotic disorders such as schizophrenia. Over the years, paranoia symptoms have evolved and can be applied to severe anxiety and worry that individuals may express every day. This evolution of the symptoms is how we now know “relationship paranoia”.

Paranoia symptoms can include experiencing hallucinations, delusions, and distorted thinking which can harm your relationships and even hurt others around you. If your or your loved one’s paranoia symptoms are severe, then immediately seek professional help.

What Causes Relationship Paranoia?

Many factors – hidden and unhidden – can contribute to relationship paranoia. Here are some of the most common factors that might cause relationship paranoia;

1. Former Relationship

A former relationship you’ve had can affect your current relationship and cause paranoia to take root. If your past relationship was abusive or traumatic in any way, then it can give rise to trust issues in your current relationship. You may use paranoia as a defense mechanism to protect yourself from further hurt.

2. High-Stress Levels

Another factor that can cause relationship paranoia can be stress. While it may sound unlikely, higher levels of stress and/or chronic stress can give rise to paranoia symptoms and even distorted thoughts. Combining stress with former relationship experiences and environmental factors, relationship paranoia can take root.

3. Mistrust Or Violation Of Trust

The manifestation of paranoia can stem from real-life serious factors including violation of trust and respect. If your trust has been violated in the past, then it could give rise to relationship paranoia, as you’ll hesitate to trust your partner. This mistrust can be because of infidelity, financial lying, or other such factors.

If you feel bad for being paranoid in your relationship yet feel something off about your partner or relationship, then go with your gut instincts. If you feel in danger, then don’t hesitate to reach out for help.

The Impact Of Paranoia On Relationships

Paranoia can take a severe toll on your health, your relationship, and even the health of your partner. On your health, relationship paranoia can put you in constant alertness, making you more susceptible to stress. When you’re constantly stressed, it can activate a physiological response and release stress hormones.

Constant paranoia can also cause anxiety, exhaustion, fatigue, and sleep disruptions, making it hard for your mind and body to get the rest it needs.

When it comes to the partner, then your paranoia can make them feel frustrated and resigned. They may even feel exasperated by constantly responding to paranoid accusations.

Relationships are founded and thrive on trust and respect. When you’re constantly paranoid about the relationship and your partner, it can destroy the relationship from within. Not being able to feel secure in the relationship no matter what your partner does to reassure you can take a heavy toll on your relationship at the cost of your happiness.

How To Stop Feeling Paranoid In Relationships?

Loving someone with a paranoid personality disorder or someone who’s paranoid can be challenging. If you’re living with a paranoid personality disorder or paranoia, then here are some steps you can take to stop feeling paranoid about your relationship.

1. Recognize The Cause:

When you recognize the cause of your paranoia, it can become easier to deal with it. If your relationship paranoia comes because of your former relationship, then you can look back at the relationship and understand why or what caused it and what you can do to fix it.

2. Identify Your Triggers:

The next thing you need to do is figure out what triggers your paranoia in your relationship. Is there an action your partner does that triggers paranoia? Or is there a particular situation that triggers it? Identifying these triggers can help you know where to work on.

3. Think Before You Act:

Paranoia can be tricky and can make you act before you can logically think about your actions, so learn how to think before you speak. Pause, take a deep breath, process the feelings, and then react. Thinking before you act can also avoid any regrets you may feel later after analyzing your actions.

4. Talk To Your Partner:

Communication is key, after all, so make sure you communicate with your partner about the feelings you’re experiencing. If you’re feeling paranoid, then talk to your partner about why you’re feeling this way. Instead of blaming them, talk to them. This means that you need to be open about their feedback. Try to understand their point of view too.

5. Open Up About Your Needs:

Your needs matter, but so do those of your partner. Talk about your needs with them and listen to theirs. Your needs will tell them what to do and what to avoid, helping you avoid relationship paranoia, and learning theirs will help you understand what to give and what to hold back.

6. Learn To Build Trust:

Trust is very important to avoid paranoia symptoms in a relationship, so you need to learn how to build trust back in a relationship for it to work. You and your partner can work together to build trust. Try to be emotionally accountable to each other. This brings us to the next step;

7. Allow Vulnerability:

Try to relax and allow vulnerability in your relationship. It could be hard to do in the beginning, but as you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you’ll realize the wonder of the emotional connection you’ll be building with your partner.

8. Don’t Give In To Paranoia:

It might seem easier to give in to your paranoia to protect yourself from hurting again but avoid doing this. Try to keep yourself busy doing something productive to avoid giving in to your thoughts. Watch a movie with your partner or go do a fun activity with them.

What Next?

If you feel your relationship paranoia taking over and ruining your relationship, then it is recommended that you seek therapy. A therapist can help you find the cause of your paranoia, identify the triggers, and help you work through them, healthily.

Relationship paranoia can cause mistrust between you and your partner in the relationship, which can eventually lead to a painful separation. Relationship paranoia can make you believe that your partner is going against you, lying to you, or cheating on you – even if they are not.

In some cases, relationship paranoia can be a defense mechanism to protect yourself from further hurt. Your paranoia symptoms can stem from a former traumatic relationship or even stress. Understanding the causes and triggers of your relationship paranoia can help.

I hope this blog helped you understand what relationship paranoia is, the potential causes, its impact, and what you can do to stop feeling paranoid in your relationship.

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About The Author

Swarnakshi Sharma
Swarnakshi Sharma

Swarnakshi is a content writer at Calm sage, who believes in a healthier lifestyle for mind and body. A fighter and survivor of depression, she strives to reach and help spread awareness on ending the stigma surrounding mental health issues. A spiritual person at heart, she believes in destiny and the power of Self. She is an avid reader and writer and likes to spend her free time baking and learning about world cultures.

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