Feeling lonely in a relationship? Here’s What You Can Do

Last Update on November 10, 2022 : Published on November 10, 2022

We often mistake loneliness for being alone. Being alone and being lonely are two completely different things. Many people are single and not lonely and many people are in a relationship yet lonely.

Loneliness in relationships is very common. It’s when one partner fails to make their presence felt in their relationship. It can either be an emotional absence or a physical absence. When you feel alone in a relationship, it can deeply scar your mental well-being making you susceptible to several mental health conditions.

Today, in this blog we are going to talk about two main things about loneliness in a relationship. First signs tell you that someone is feeling lonely in their marriage or relationship and second what one can do to stop feeling alone in their relationship.

Shall we begin?

Signs That You Are Alone In A Relationship




What does being alone in a relationship mean? In my understanding, you become lonely in a relationship when your partner refuses to make any effort to the relationship. Even when they are doing anything wrong, they make you feel alone by not investing completely in the relationship.

You might feel alone in a relationship when you do everything to keep the relationship going and they just act as a mere spectator. They are emotionally and physically absenting in the relationship, especially with those things that you need to do together.

However, to recognize if you or someone you know are feeling alone in a relationship, you need to watch out for these signs;

  • Feeling unheard by your partner (they don’t register anything you say)
  • You feel like your partner is not as involved in the relationship as you are
  • You feel like your partner doesn’t care for you anymore
  • There is a weird disconnect between the both of you
  • You feel anxious while talking to him about things that bother you
  • You both have stopped sharing any news
  • Your partner makes you feel like your opinion doesn’t matter
  • You have this insecurity about your relationship, and your future looks blurr
  • You feel like you have to take all decisions on your own
  • Your partner makes plans without you
  • You have a sense of emptiness within your relationship
  • You no longer enjoy spending time with your partner because it feels like you’re burdening them

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How Do You Stop Feeling Lonely In A Relationship?


Now that you know the signs of feeling alone in a relationship, I hope it becomes easy for you to recognize loneliness in marriages and other relationships. However, knowing that the weird feeling you’re having is caused by loneliness in a relationship is not enough.

When you know the problem, it’s wrong to not try to find the solution. If you feel alone in your relationship, here’s the solution for you. Here’s a list of things you can do to stop feeling alone in a relationship;

  • Don’t stop loving your partner: it’s not always the partner’s absences but your lack of understanding that makes you feel lonely in a relationship. Try to keep things interesting between the two of you, keep going on dates, and never stop pouring the love.
  • Talk to them about your concerns: you can find an easy solution to a difficult problem by simply talking to each other. Tell your partner that you feel alone in this relationship and allow them to raise their concerns as well.
  • Engage in self-care: sometimes it becomes very easy to stop taking care of yourself and begin dwelling on the thoughts of loneliness. The feeling of being alone in a relationship can be overwhelming, therefore a good self-care session can help you cope with such feelings.
  • Try to do things together: there are two people in the relationship and the issues of the relationship are to be solved together. To stop feeling lonely in your relationship, schedule things in such a way that you end up doing it together.
  • Talk about your future together: it’s important to make your partner feel like you have faith in this relationship. Talk about what you see in the future about this relationship and what you expect out of this relationship.
  • Listen to your partner: if you want to be heard you need to first listen to your partner. You need to make them feel heard. You treat people the way you want to be treated.
  • Talk to a professional: if nothing seems to be falling in place, you must visit a therapist. Sometimes you just have a new perspective to solve a problem. Perhaps therapy can help you clear your mind.

That’s All folks!

I hope you found this blog about how to stop feeling lonely in a relationship interesting, helpful, and thought-provoking. Do share this blog with your friends and family so that we all know the signs you’re alone in a relationship and how to cope with the feelings of loneliness in a relationship.

Thanks for reading.

Take care and stay safe.

About The Author

Kirti Bhati
Kirti Bhati

I am an English literature (major) and psychology (minor) graduate from St. Bede’s College, Shimla. Postgraduate in Clinical psychology from IIS University, Jaipur. She has published a Research paper on Music therapy in the military population and Workplace stress in a national seminar conducted by Fortis hospital (gurugram) and international seminar conducted by St. Bede’s College, Shimla, Respectively. Authored a dissertation work on ‘effect of social media addiction on the mental and physical well-being in adolescents’ Currently working at calm sage as a writer.

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