You Are NOT Being Gaslighted
You are not being gaslighted by your loved one! It may feel like you are being lied to or that you are not getting the full story from your partner, but it could be because your partner is not a good communicator or that your relationship does not have healthy communication. You can solve this by following these ways.
- Build a two-way communication channel and be open and honest with your partner
- Talk to your loved one directly by using “I” Statements so that there is no miscommunication or misinterpretation
- Think about what you want to say and sit down with your partner without any distractions nearby to air out any conflicts
- Allow your partner to talk without judgments or interruptions and ask them to give you the same courtesy when it’s your turn to talk
You Are Being MILDLY Gaslighted
You might not be gaslighted as you like to believe. It could be a mix of misunderstandings, lack of open communication, and some sense of misplaced trust that can make you feel like you’re being gaslighted. You can easily fix this issue by following these ways.
- Communication is key so talk to your partner about what you feel and allow them to clear the air
- Set healthy boundaries with your loved one and be open as well as direct with your expectations
- If you make a mistake, then take responsibility for it. If your partner makes a mistake but refuses to take responsibility, then nudge them in the right direction. They might be unaware that they made a mistake at all.
- Most importantly, don’t hide your disagreements. If there is something you disagree with, let your partner know
You Are Being SOMEWHAT Gaslighted
There is a slight possibility that you are being gaslighted by a loved one. Your loved one may be minimizing your feelings, making you doubt your reality, invalidating your feelings and experiences, or brushing off your concerns to confuse you. These are some of the most common actions that a gaslighter may engage in. If these actions feel familiar, then here’s what you can do.
- Take stock of your feelings. Pay attention to the actions of your loved one and note how you feel about it
- Collect proof of your gaslighting. Take screenshots of texts, emails, or messages, take pictures, note the date and time of events, or use direct quotes when relaying the conversation.
- Speak up about the actions that leave you feeling confused. Call out against criticism and insults. If you receive backhanded compliments or insults disguised as jokes, then speak up against them.
- Don’t lose confidence in your version of events. Even if your loved one creates confusion, stick to your version. If you have proof, show it, but don’t allow yourself to be discredited.
You Are Being GASLIGHTED
Based on your answers, it can be safe to say that you are being gaslighted by your loved one. Their actions are not in your favor and you are being subjected to subtle emotional manipulation. This manipulative behavior may take a huge toll on your mental and emotional health, so you must seek help. You can start by following these ways.
- Practice self-validation. This technique can help you become confident in yourself and empower you to speak up against manipulation.
- Try to counter manipulative actions and words with evidence. You can collect pictures, texts, and emails, and even note down the date and time of events to collaborate with when you are re-telling your version of any event.
- Focus on caring for yourself. Take time to practice positive self-talk, affirmations, try meditation, and start journaling to keep track of your emotions and thoughts. Also, involve your loved one and your support system in your self-care. Your support network can help validate your version of events and support your beliefs when the time comes.
- Seek professional help and support. A licensed professional can help you understand the signs of gaslighting accurately and help you navigate through your life and relationship.