Atelophobia : The Fear of Imperfection | Signs, Causes and How to Manage
Do you fear you’re not good enough? Do you have a fear of being imperfect? Do you fear imperfection?
If your answer is an automatic “yes” to any of these questions, then you may be struggling with ‘Atelophobia’. I mean, we all live with a small kernel of fear of not being perfect but it does not necessarily impact our lives.
For others, this fear can be a debilitating fear termed Atelophobia. Being perfect or rather yet, trying to be perfect is a natural drive but perfectionism is not always healthy. Atelophobia or the fear of imperfection gets worse or becomes troublesome when it causes you to avoid things fearing you’ll do wrong or when it causes you to experience severe emotional distress.
In this article, I’ll be helping you explore what is atelophobia, its signs, the potential causes, and how you can overcome this fear of not being perfect.
What Does ‘Atelophobia’ Mean?
The word Atelophobia comes from the Greek word “Atelos” meaning “imperfect”. In simple words, Atelophobia is the fear of being imperfect. People with this feat are constantly worried that they might do something wrong or imperfect.
Such people also have irrational standards set for themselves – in professional and personal lives – to achieve perfection. If and when these irrational standards are not met, they experience negative emotions that may cause them severe distress.
Atelophobia causes people to be scared of making mistakes, fearing they would mess up everything. Living in this constant fear can be exhausting.
Symptoms Of Atelophobia
Atelophobia has mental, emotional, and physical symptoms that you need to look out for:
- Trouble focusing on things other than the fear
- Feeling detached from the world around you
- Extreme fear of failing
- Poor self-esteem
- Low self-worth
- Feeling extreme disappointment if faced with failure
- Having a pessimistic view of life
- Anticipating negative consequences every time
- Being unrealistic in certain situations
- Constantly worrying about everything
- Having an overwhelming sense of dread
- Displaying negative emotions such as anger, hurt, disappointment
- Flight response triggered when faced with mild inconveniences
- Sudden panic or anxiety attacks
- Shaking and trembling
- Chest pains
- Increased heart rate
- Hot or cold flashes
- Dry mouth
What Might Cause Atelophobia?
There are no exact causes of atelophobia but it can be speculated that this fear can be a result of learned behavior during childhood and teenage years. For example; parents giving everything their child wants to please them.
This fear can also stem from childhood trauma or negative memory. Sometimes, past experiences may also contribute to atelophobia.
Another potential cause of why people experience atelophobia can be the pressure to be perfect from parents, teachers, or friends. The need to be perfect can impact a child’s mental and emotional state giving rise to the fear of being imperfect.
Signs of atelophobia to keep in mind:
- You are afraid to make mistakes
- Your standards are impossible to meet
- You’d rather do nothing than do something incorrectly or below standard
- You avoid situations where you might make a mistake
- Your fear rules your life and affects your normal functioning
How To Manage The Fear Of Being Imperfect?
As with the other fears and disorders, the treatment for atelophobia depends on the severity of the phobia. However, there are treatments such as CBT, Exposure therapy, and medications available to help overcome atelophobia.
1. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy
One of the most recommended therapies, CBT or cognitive-behavioral therapy can help you recognize the source of your fear while learning to gain control over them. This therapy can also help you change your negative thoughts to positive ones.
2. Exposure Therapy
Exposure therapy is used to make you focus on what you fear the most. The repeated exposure to your fear can help in managing the fear and eventually learn how to control it. This therapy can take time but with effort and patience, it can help you.
Other Self-Help Coping Strategies
3. Say Goodbye To Negative Emotions
And say yes to happy emotions! Letting go of your negative emotions such as guilt, shame, disappointment can help you move on from your fear of imperfection.
4. Say Yes To Communication
Communication is key! People are not mind-readers so the best thing to do is to let them know how you feel about a situation. If you fear making a mistake, let others know so there are no negative emotions stuck inside you.
5. Stay True To Yourself
Having a fear of not being perfect is not a bad thing. It might be an irrational fear but it’s yours. Accept it and own up to it. Staying true to yourself and your nature is the best thing you can do to manage your fear.
6. Don’t Forget Practicing Mindfulness
Being in the present moment and not worrying about things you can’t control is another thing you can do to manage your fear of imperfection. Couple mindfulness with deep breathing or other relaxation techniques to help you find your center and relax.
7. It’s Okay To Make Mistakes
Please keep in mind that it is okay to make mistakes. We are humans and are naturally flawed. Do not base your self-worth on your failures. The end goal is to enjoy the life you’ve been blessed with. So make mistakes and learn from them but don’t let them rule your life.
“When perfectionism is driving, shame is riding shotgun, and fear is that annoying backseat driver.” – Brene Brown
It is not easy to let go of your fears. The best thing you can do is to not let your fear become larger than you. Feeling overwhelmed when you don’t meet your standards is okay but letting your fear of imperfection rule your life – that’s not okay.
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