“Why Do I Feel Like Such A Burden?” What To Do?

Last Update on October 13, 2022 : Published on October 14, 2022
Why Do I Feel Like Such A Burden

“Why Do I Feel Like Such A Burden?”

Sometimes we focus on our assumption of what others might think of us more than what they actually think of us. We are all social beings and all of us need some help and support from others time and again.

During some unfortunate times, when we are left with nothing we seek help and support from other people. Many people can feel like they are being a burden on people who are helping them during that tough hour.

But the question here is, why do you feel like a burden? What is feeding this negative emotion of feeling like you’re being a burden on others? Mental health experts claim that such negative feelings can stem from low self-esteem issues, poor relationships, underlying mental health conditions, etc.

Do you want to know exactly why you feel like a burden and what can you do to stop feeling like that? If yes, we’ve got some answers for you.

Read on to find out why you feel like such a burden…

Reasons Behind “Why Do I Feel Like A Burden To Everyone”


It’s normal to feel like a burden on your family or friends sometimes. If these feelings keep coming to you very frequently or affect your mood & self-worth, take it as a warning sign! Sometimes our feelings and thoughts indicate an underlying issue that needs to be taken care of.

Let’s have a look at some reasons that can make you feel like a burden on your family and friends;

1. Depression or other mood disorders:

when you are dealing with mental health conditions like depression, bipolar disorder, etc, it is very common to feel like you’re a burden on your family. This thought of being a burden on everyone around them makes them want to be away from their friends and family.

2. Anxiety-related disorders:

an anxious person can go to lengths to avoid what triggers anxiety & stress. While avoiding triggers many of them gradually begin taking help from others to get things done. But how long can you ask for help? This thought makes the anxious person even more anxious and worries about being a burden on the person helping them.

3. Low self-esteem:

having low self-esteem can brew a lot of mental and emotional health issues. Feeling like a burden on others is one among many other negative feelings that low self-esteem brings with it. Even simple things like sharing your feelings can feel like being a burden on others.

4. Childhood neglect:

in some cases, childhood neglect can also make a person believe that they can be a burden on others. Since childhood, they have been feeling like a burden on their parents. As they grow older, they feel like a burden in every relationship of theirs.

5. You’re in a difficult spot:

the feeling of being a burden on everyone can come to you if you are dealing with a difficult situation. For example, you’ve had a huge loss and had to sell your house. Till the time you could get rented accommodation, your friend asks you to stay with them. It’s been months and you haven’t found a place to live, and you start feeling like a burden to your friend.

What Can I Do To Not Feel Like A Burden On Everyone?


Feeling like a burden on someone can be overwhelming but you definitely can overcome it. There are quite a few things that you can try if you have been struggling with the feeling of being a burden on your family.

Let’s see what you can do to overcome this feeling of being a burden…

1. Challenge your negative thoughts: whenever you feel like you’re being a burden on someone, challenge your thoughts. You’re not always a burden even when you think you are. Tell yourself asking for help is okay. You’re not a burden, you’re just a friend in need.

2. Work on your self-esteem issues: it’s important to build your self-esteem. There is nothing in this world that can dim your sparkle but you. Set short-term, small, achievable goals, and learn to be proud of yourself

3. Express your feelings: the best way to deal with overwhelming feelings is to address them. Talk to your friends and family about how you have been feeling like a burden and why you think you feel that way. This will help you clear your mind.

4. Stop apologizing and start thanking: if your friends and family have offered you help, it’s maybe because they love you. If you keep saying “I’m sorry I’ve been all over that place” or similar apologies, they’re only going to feel bad. Instead, you can thank them for patiently listening to you rant about something or just being there for you.

5. Examine & improve your relationships with others: if you have been feeling like a burden on others maybe it’s an indication that your relationship is not that strong. It can also mean that you need to work on your relationship or how you feel about your friends and family.

6. Get Professional Help: if nothing seems you work and the feeling of being a burden on everyone worsens, it’s time you visit a mental health expert. Maybe they can help you figure out what’s making you feel that way.

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That’s All Folks!

I hope you found this blog about why I feel such a burden on others helpful, informative, and thought-provoking. Give a good look at the things you can do to not feel like a burden on others so that you know what to do if you ever feel like that.

Thanks for reading.

Take care and stay safe.

About The Author

Kirti Bhati
Kirti Bhati

I am an English literature (major) and psychology (minor) graduate from St. Bede’s College, Shimla. Postgraduate in Clinical psychology from IIS University, Jaipur. She has published a Research paper on Music therapy in the military population and Workplace stress in a national seminar conducted by Fortis hospital (gurugram) and international seminar conducted by St. Bede’s College, Shimla, Respectively. Authored a dissertation work on ‘effect of social media addiction on the mental and physical well-being in adolescents’ Currently working at calm sage as a writer.

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