How to Be Empathetic: Top 5 Ways
Coming this far, I feel we are living in a biased bubble wherein everyone is hard working like us, spending like us, worshiping like us, earning like us… but still lack one thing which is empathy. No wonder, people are more into sympathy more than showing empathy. And, I think this is where the problem begins. We think like robots now and reply like robots. We really lack empathy maybe because of homogeneous social circles or maybe because of biased nature. But, the good news is that we can develop empathy. In order to develop empathy, we can take steps to understand the actual needs.
PS: On the Journey of developing empathy, you might be able to make new friends as well.
Empathy means putting yourself into someone else’s shoes which results in recognizing and understanding the thoughts we often share. In this blog, I have highlighted how to develop empathy in simple four ways.
Top 5 Ways to Develop Empathy
1. Use Reflection
While someone is sharing their problems with you make sure that the questions you ask are open-ended which means they must not give a syllabic reply, the conversation goes through mutually. The open-ended questions will help you to understand the issue in a better way and will facilitate dialogues. Other than this, reflect on what they say is the most effective way to show empathy.
Reflection means an attempt to clarify what another person is trying to explain, do not repeat the same words. The use of reflection will help you to understand the issue and it makes the other person feel heard.
2. Connect with the heart and target
While you listen to the other person make sure that you completely focus on their issues. Additionally, avoid the use of any digital devices while listening and it makes the other person feel like he\she is sharing their thoughts with the right person. This approach is referred to as “connected knowing.” Try to get into other’s issues and start thinking accordingly is the finest approach one can use to develop empathy within.
3. Avoid critiques and judgments
Stating cliché phrases and pronouncements like move on, get over it should be totally avoided. The use of such phrases does not let you feel the actual distress or pain. To actually feel and understand the issue, you should dispense your criticism and analyses to differentiate between the actual problems.
It might be also possible that the other person does not want any judgment regarding the issue, he\she maybe just wants to share. Therefore, use your judgment power here and establish the need of the other person here, does he\she want help or they just want to share. If the person only wants to be heard, make sure to maintain the confidentiality and trust between the two.
4. Value another’s perspective
While listening with all the focus on the issue, you might differentiate between the wrong and right. But, do not share your thoughts on the problem until and unless the other person is ready to hear. Other than this, make sure that you do not judge or criticize, let them speak the heart out and value the perspective.
The value of this dimension of learning an empathetic language is really important and is directly related to the emotional component of developing empathy. Empathy is not only about engaging in the conversation but also feel the plight. During this, you actually feel “how would you feel if you were confronting the identical situation” which empathy means.
5. Focus on the need and act accordingly
After listening to all the circumstances, now focus on the actual need of the hour and act accordingly. For example, if the person has lost a loved one, explain the loss and feel about it. If the person is going through a breakup, let them know that you are always there to talk. If the person experienced a loss in business, let them know that you are always ready to help.
Therefore, my motive in this section is to make you understand how to act according to the situation. Do not show sympathy, feel the issue, and act according to the situation.
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