Husband Is Always Angry? Let’s Find Out What We Can Do

Last Update on January 30, 2023 : Published on January 30, 2023
My Husband is always angry

I have heard this from so many working and non-working women, “My husband is always angry and negative…whenever he speaks his words are always negative.” Well, I quite understand the fact that loving and living with someone who is always angry and negative is challenging especially when that anger comes from your husband or your partner.

Recently, someone asked me what I should do about it. It took me some time to analyze the reasons behind living with an angry husband. I came up with something that might sound cliché or common, but doing that can really improve your relationship with your husband and it can also help in controlling his anger and negative thoughts.

First of all, before you think of leaving him or seeking separation you must keep a mindset of solving problems. In this way, your mind and thoughts will allow your husband to overcome his negative series of emotions. Secondly, understand that all marriages are full of ups and downs. Therefore, participate in this ride and try to overcome this phase together.

This article can help women who believe that their husband is always angry and negative. The information shared in this blog will allow you to improve your relationship with your husband along with controlling his anger and negativity.

Reasons behind Your Husband’s Anger

In order to find a solution to your husband’s anger, we really need to evaluate why he is always angry and negative. To find out the reasons, you can take the help of the below questions:

  • Is he stressed?
  • Is he overworking?
  • Does he work full-time?
  • Is he taking any substances or alcohol?
  • Does he smoke?
  • Is there any extra load on him?
  • Is he in debt?
  • Is he happy with his job or not?
  • What exactly is going on in his career?
  • Is he having some confusion?
  • Does he think that you’re going to cheat him?
  • Is he depressed or anxious?
  • Is he having emotional burnout?
  • Does he feel unappreciated?
  • Is he unfaithful?
  • Is he feeling ignored or invalidated?
  • Is he having anger management issues?
  • Is he unhappy with the marriage?
  • Does he have poor communication skills?
  • Is he struggling with unresolved trauma?
  • Is he overburdened with the responsibilities?
  • Is he trying to conceal his insecurities?

While you’re trying to find out the reasons, please do not lash out on your husband without finding the main reason behind his anger. There could be various reasons behind his anger; therefore, you really need to stay calm during this process.

Impacts of Anger on your Family and Marriage

Every action has its own consequences. If you are dealing with an angry husband, there must be some impact on your family and marriage. Your husband’s negative thoughts and anger can really reduce your self-esteem. Your husband’s anger may impact your marriage and family with

  • Damage to trust and safety
  • Fear of receiving love
  • Fear of being hurt
  • Loneliness and sadness
  • Amplified sexual temptations
  • Increase in compulsive behaviors
  • More fights and a less peaceful home.

However, you can help your husband with his anger and negative thoughts with the help of some tips. In the next section, let’s read what we can do about it.

Dealing With An Angry Husband

Once you have found out the reasons behind your husband’s anger, it might become easy for you to look for the solution. If you’re not able to find a solution to your husband’s anger, this section will help you to deal with anger and negative thoughts.

1. Talk about it

I remember I asked you to not lash out. However, decent communication and understanding of each other are always welcomed. You can always look for a better time for a conversation. Always remember to choose the right time especially since your husband must not be indulged in any activity or office work.

Additionally, when he starts speaking, listen to him without any judgment. If you feel like your husband is not ready to talk, you can always take the help of a marriage counselor.

2. Respond empathetically and compassionately

During the process, try to avoid comparison. Try to put yourself in their shoes, control your emotions, and try to support them compassionately. Whenever they start discussing, do not only force their anger but try to keep an open mind so that you can refrain from blaming and judgments. Additionally, try to understand the root causes.

To read more about self-compassion, you can take the help of Three elements of Self-Compassion

3. Online Therapy

Online therapy for marriages and couples strengthens your relationship with your partner. Apart from counseling and therapy, you can also seek anger management classes and improvement of communication skills in marriage.

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4. Check for any mental health issues signs or symptoms

There can be situations wherein your husband might be going through some stress, grief, trauma, depression, or PTSD. Anger is a series of emotions and is related to many mental health issues. Therefore, you can always look for the signs and symptoms related to mental health issues.

While you’re trying to look for signs, please note that the internet may tell you that there is a disorder or disease related to it. Please do not conclude anything on your own and book an appointment with a certified mental health provider so that he can get the right help.

5. Take care of yourself

While it is really important to take care of and support your partner, it is also important to take care of yourself. If you feel stressed or overwhelmed, you can always take the support of a loved one. Taking the help of support systems can have various mental health benefits as it helps in reducing stress and improving overall well-being.

6. Know when to leave

Unfortunately, sometimes we cannot always make things work, and sometimes, it gets impossible to handle situations. In such cases, it’s okay to protect yourself from mental, physical, or verbal abuse.

If you think or feel, you can protect them from the aggression, it’s okay to take a leave and unleash yourself from the suffering. Walking away from the things we cannot change is a strong call. It is completely okay to think about what’s right and is important for you. In such cases, you can take the help of couples counseling.

Self-Help Tips to Deal with an Angry Husband

1. Be patient and support him

If you think your husband is going through something really tough or hard, be patient and support him. Try to motivate him so that he can get out of the rough patch and live the life you both wanted.

2. Whenever he speaks, listen to them patiently

Whenever your husband gets comfortable or ready to talk with you, listen to him patiently and try to understand the whole situation without passing any comments or judgments. If you feel you can be of any help or support, do it. Just try to be at their back so that they can feel empowered again.

3. Encourage a positive mindset

You really need to be with them, support them, motivate them, and encourage them to maintain a positive mindset. A positive mindset will not only help them fight back the challenges but also strengthen your relationship with them.

4. Try to empathize with him

Whenever he speaks, try to put yourself in their shoes so that you can have deep look at their issues, struggles, or challenges. This will help you understand their situation additionally, empathizing with them will allow you to provide better solutions.

5. Acknowledge his feelings and show him your support

Once they share everything with you, do not leave the conversation one-ended, try to understand and acknowledge their feelings so that they can feel that they have your back. Additionally, show them support so that they can get the encouragement they needed.

6. Set clear and healthy boundaries to avoid burnout

After encouraging and showing them your support, it’s important to look after your mental health as well. Right after the support, set clear and healthy boundaries so that you can also be positive at that time. Additionally, talk about your feelings so that they can avoid anger in the future.

7. Seek help from family members, friends, and professionals

Know that you can always seek support from your family members, friends, and mates. Surround yourself with the best people who give the best pieces of advice and support you in the right way. Additionally, you can always connect with a mental health professional to seek guidance related to relationships, marriages, or life challenges.

I hope this blog helps you to control your husband’s anger and negative thoughts. Comment down and share your experiences after reading this blog. For more such content, connect with us on social media platforms.

Thanks for reading!

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About The Author

Aayushi Kapoor
Aayushi Kapoor

Aayushi is a Content Creator at Calm Sage. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Food Technology and a Master's Degree in Clinical Nutrition. Her constant interest in the improvement of mental health, nutrition, and overall wellness embarked upon her career as a “full-time educational writer.” She likes to make an asynchronous connection with her readers. Her mantra for living life is "What you seek is seeking you".

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