Styles Of Parenting And Their Impact On Children
Over the years psychologists have been trying their best to understand how parenting works with upbringing and how it can affect a child’s behavior. Developmental psychologists have been working specifically in this field of study and have found some really astonishing facts. Finding the actual cause of a specific problem or behavior pattern can be quite hard but a lot of things can be ascertained through these studies.
The behaviour of siblings can be quite different from each other even though they are raised in a single household and on the opposite of that there can be similarities in vice versa. Even though there are such dramatic differences, researchers have long suggested that there is an underlying pattern that we need to understand. In this article, I am going to talk about different kinds of parenting styles and what impacts they can have on children’s behavior over the years. Have a look:
Styles of Parenting
In the mid-1900s, a well-known psychologist by the name of Diana Baumrind conducted a deep study on the behavior of little children, upbringing and their parents. She established that there are some differences in parenting styles. The study was conducted over the guidance patterns, strictness, approach taken by parents, warmth they showed, communication between them, maturity of decision making, control over the power, and even overall nurturing. She broadly classified those under three headings.
They were Authoritarian Parenting, Authoritative Parenting, and Permissive Parenting. Later on it was established by Maccoby and Martin, researchers on the same subject, that there is a fourth style of parenting present among the population and named it Uninvolved Parenting style. All these styles of parenting defined their children’s behaviour later in life. How and what are they?
1. Authoritarian Parenting
Under this style of parenting, the guardians act and behave as they have the sole authority over their children’s decision making process. Much similar like the dictatorship and people living under it. There are strict and well established ground rules and any failure on the part of kids result in consequences. These consequences can be in the form of punishments, more discipline (restrictions) or even penalties. The children cannot question back or challenge the authority, they simply have to obey the rules.
These are also the characteristics of parents that demand high and beyond from their children. The pressure to study and perform well is constant and when it comes to fulfill the wants of their children, this responsiveness decreases. The children are not expected to make errors and expect exceptional results. Authoritarian parents are often found to be punishing their children quite harshly with little to no explanation and they often wonder what their mistake was. The communication between them is minimal and is only done at the time of results or disciplining.
Authoritarian Parenting often leads to children who are disciplined, perform well with clear instructions, good in academics and to the point. But when it comes to socializing they struggle to communicate and are often found low on self-esteem, confidence and happiness. Creativity and innovation is also a missing factor.
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2. Authoritative Parenting
Authoritative Parenting is much like Authoritarian Parenting when it comes to rules, strictness and guidelines but is far better when communication is assessed. In this style parents behave as government rather than dictator. So here children have their voice and can raise their concerns. The parents here are more sensitive towards their children and provide feedback and support whenever necessary, they forgive more and don’t concentrate much on the consequences.
They try hard to cooperate with their children rather than using force and want their kid to feel the ease. They are strict but never disregard the opinions and try to always lend an ear. They want their children to be like them, socially active, assertive and now awkward.
Authoritative Parenting is considered as one of the best approaches when it comes to handling children. The result of all these little efforts is better. Children develop into citizens that are self-regulated, disciplined, responsible, talented, and moreover happy.
3. Permissive Parenting
As the name suggests, this style of parenting is more casual than others. The parents following this, don’t usually want to indulge in the decision making process of their children. They try to stay away from the talk and don’t want a heavy discussion. They have very low expectations and don’t want to impose much restrictions. They are open to talk but not in a way to demand things. These guardians are often seen communicating with their children about their issues and life and that is how they nurture their off-springs.
The children that come out of this upbringing are usually not very competitive and also perform average in classes. They rank lower in self-esteem, confidence and even happiness.
4. Uninvolved Parenting
Uninvolved Parenting includes bare minimum communication between parents and children. The same is the condition when it comes to demands, expectations, attention, discipline, responsibility, etc. They just try to get on with their own lives and provide their children with basic necessities like shelter, food, and clothing. The material necessities are fulfilled but not emotional or mental. The children are left unguided, without rules, discipline, boundaries. If the kids are in need of something, there are high chances that the parents are not even aware about it.
So far, one of the lowest desirable parenting Styles among the four. Uninvolved parenting brings up children who are low on confidence, self-esteem, and discipline, less active. They get into a fight knowing that there won’t be any kind of consequences. They also don’t fare well in school and are not focused at studies.
So these were the four types of parenting styles and their impacts that I wanted to share with you. The relationship between parent and child should be a sacred one. It can either build a world-class leader or a person who just doesn’t care about anything at all.
Hope it helps.
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