8 Things That Hold You Back In Life & You Must Surpass Them

Last Update on April 27, 2023 : Published on October 19, 2020
Things that hold you back and how to overcome them

We have the potential to achieve more than we think and that requires us to be passionate and determined for goals. However, it is not enough if we forget to figure out things that hold us back in life. We all are surrounded by such elements but they often go unnoticed, impacting our overall productivity. But, the question is can you avoid what’s holding you back? 

Yes, that’s the good news! When we are ready to control the circumstances that impact our lives in little ways, then we can break all the chains holding us back.

It is recommended that when you find out answers to what holds you back, you must also figure out the solutions along with them. Starting today, let’s see how you can plan your tasks accordingly and say bye-bye to circumstances that hold you back.

What Is Holding You Back From Achieving Goals?

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1. Indecisiveness

“Decisiveness is a supreme law, because it gives power to achieve your goals.” -Edward VIII

If you usually take a lot of time ordering food from the menu or think way too much before making any decision in life, this habit needs to see a firm bye-bye. Indecisiveness is one of those things that hold people back. Successful people around the world are known to make decisions fast. They know that if decisions are delayed then they are never going to take place the way it should. It is not that analysis of decisions shouldn’t be done but it must be quick.

 2. Seeking Approval From Others

“An amazing thing happens when you stop seeking approval and validation. You find it.” –Mandy Hale

Another thing that holds people back is seeking approval from others. Listening to others for every decision you make is like not listening to what you want ahead. When you think about their approval, you are just holding yourself back from personal achievements. We don’t refrain from accepting that opinions matter to enhance the quality of decisions but it absolutely depends on the person you are asking and his concern towards you.

3. Blame Others

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” –Robert Anthony

It is always easy to shift your blame on others and shake off the dust of responsibility. But, it is one of those things that hold people back from achieving success in life. Have you realized that doing so only makes you feel guilty within and the chance to grow within slips away? The blame game is certainly a step back, so stop doing so and own the responsibility for your actions. Once you accept the issue, you unlock a new way to resolve the negative aspect.

4. Neglecting Own Health

“It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.” –Mahatma Gandhi

Yes, neglecting your health is what’s holding you back! Consuming junk food and alcohol, smoking, and avoiding exercise make us mentally and physically exhausted. Moreover, while you neglect your health and focus on your phone, social media, or other gadgets obsessively, not only are you ruining your productive time but also holding back in life. You need to keep reminding yourself that health is the foremost thing you need every moment.

5. Staying In The Comfort Zone

“A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows here.”– John Assaraf

Being in a comfort zone seems wonderful, but the same comfort zone stops you from self-realization and real-life experiences. Isn’t it safe to say that living in your comfort zone is what’s holding you back in life? Leaving your comfort zone can allow you to find new challenges and unlock new opportunities for yourself. So get inspired and do not let things like your comfort zone hold you back.

6. Comparing Yourself To Others

“The only person you should try to be better than is who you were yesterday.”

Another thing that holds people back in life is one of the most difficult things; comparison with others. Comparing ourselves with others, especially when times are competitive and everyone is trying to outrun each other, can hold us back. Jealousy and comparison are natural traits but it becomes a problem when our mental health starts to get affected by it. Moreover, the comparison doesn’t let us listen to our inner voice and instead makes us do what our external surroundings desire.

7. Expecting Results Instantly

“Good things take time.”

Does it happen that you do a lot of work and then think that your efforts have just wasted nothing? Well, many times it happens when you expect the results very instantly. Your hard work always finds its fruitfulness, just that you must keep your patience intact. If you are persistent about your efforts, there is no way your results will not display happiness. Don’t let your expectations hold you back in life.

8. Being Engulfed By Failure

“If you learn from your defeat, you haven’t really lost.”

We often believe that it is failure that holds people back but we fail to realize that failure is the road to success. Failure means that your risk did not work out this time but it doesn’t mean that it will not work again. No matter how awful you are feeling now, you have to get up and try it again. If you are stuck in the failure zone, you have found another thing that holds you back in life.


Finding what holds you back has nothing to worry but it is something that you must learn from in order to grow yourself better. Apart from this, you must also

  • Remember to apologize for your mistake wherever necessary
  • Be curious about life and question yourself for positivity
  • Avoid waiting for the ‘right’ time because it never arrives
  • Avoid getting distracted from the goals.

And nothing can stop you from achieving your goals in life!

About The Author

Akanksha Soni
Akanksha Soni

Akanksha is an active lifestyle blogger and writer at Calmsage. She has learnt various lessons on happiness and methods to fight depression through 'Gurus' as well as own experiences. An ardent practitioner of Yoga and meditation, she keeps traveling, writes and interacts with people to feel alive.


  1. Rashmi Kandhil
    Rashmi Kandhil

    Informative blog, it is true that many things hold all of us back but it is not impossible to surpass them.

  2. Jackie

    I used to seek approval from others all the time before. Never knew that it was what held me back. I loved the points you highlighted in your article. Very well explained too.

  3. Shank

    nice blog!!! the best thing is love to for yourself

  4. Amara Smith
    Amara Smith

    Seeking Approval From Others is not a good thing. we should learn to live life on our terms and conditions.

  5. CHTN

    I give more weightage to the indecisive nature & being in the comfort zone for too long....nice blog guys

  6. Meredith Grey
    Meredith Grey

    Much needed content... thank you so much author for sharing this More power to you ♥️

  7. mariya jonsan
    mariya jonsan

    One of the best article must read and share it .

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