Why Surround Yourself With Positive People | How To Do It

Last Update on August 17, 2021 : Published on August 17, 2021
Surround Yourself With Positive People

“The only thing that changes our life long-term is when we raise our standards.” – Tony Robbins

Isn’t this true, though? Success – whether it is in our business, work, or relationships – everything depends on the standards we raise in our lives, with people or energies. The best way to raise your standards is to surround yourself with positive people.

This concept is directly related to the Law Of Attraction that states that thinking good and positive will manifest good and positive things. The idea of this theory is to surround yourself with positivity – whether it be energies, thinking, or people.

In this article, I’ll help you understand the importance of surrounding yourself with positive people, why you should do it, and how to do it.

So, let’s begin!

The Importance Of Surrounding Yourself With Positive People

The Importance Of Surrounding Yourself With Positive People

The people we spend our time with have a way of influencing our lives, our moods, and our expectations. Surrounding yourself with positive and admirable people will result in you adopting authoritative beliefs and positive values.

Surrounding yourself with positive people will bring changes in your life and lifestyle such as:

  • Your attitude towards life will change
  • You will always be motivated to do things
  • You will accomplish more
  • You will meet new and admirable people
  • You will be always happy
  • You will attract more opportunities to be successful
  • You will be more grateful and generous

“The quality of a person’s life is most often a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group.” – Tony Robbins

According to Dr. David R. Hamilton, an author and kindness advocate, surrounding yourself with positivity will help you live longer than negative people. Whether we like to believe it or not, positivity does affect our lifespan.

Positive people don’t exactly mean happy people but they’re always trying to keep a positive attitude in life. These people can be anyone – your family, your friends, your coworkers, or your mentors. These people always have your best interest at heart and will always try to push you and encourage you in the right direction.

When you’re constantly spending time with positive people, it becomes easier to focus on your goals and work on reaching them. Once you’re surrounded by people with positive energy, you’ll see a change in yourself too. You’ll be more energized, motivated, and you will be less likely to be stressed.

How To Surround Yourself With Positive People?


There is a power in positivity. Remember, that the people you spend your time with are more likely to leave an impression on you. Now, it’s your choice whether you want these people to be negative Nelly or positive Polly.

It’s not easy to find people who not only support and encourage you but also challenge and push you to become more, accomplish more, and reach for more.

Here are some ways you can surround yourself with positive people:

1. Let Go Of Toxic Relationships

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones make you feel that you, too, can become great.” – Mark Twain

Letting go of toxic people and relationships is the first step you need to take. Is your relationship with your partner making you feel miserable? Is your teammate not motivated enough? You need to identify the negative relationships in your life. If your relationship – whether it is personal or professional – emotionally draining you and makes you feel agitated, you need to rethink that relationship.

It can be difficult to let go of relationships especially when you don’t want to burn bridges. But remember, that you don’t owe anyone anything. If your relationship is negative and you feel like it is driving you down, then you need to make a decision.

2. Welcome Self-Motivated People

We all have goals in our life, right? But what about motivation? Sometimes we feel a certain lack of motivation and not being around positive people can’t help with that either. Instead of spending time with people with no motivation, surround yourself with self-motivated people.

Self-motivated people are driven by their intrinsic motivation, the type of motivation that brings you pleasure, excitement, and satisfaction. If you’re used to spending time with negative people, it’s time to take a step back and surround yourself with self-motivated people instead.

3. Be Around Successful People

You must have heard of positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative but have you ever wondered if success attracts success? Well, it’s true. If you want to be successful in life, you need to surround yourself with already successful people.

You can learn a lot from being around people who are already successful. How do they strategize? How is their networking? How do they maintain their relationships? Observe them and learn from them.

4. Be Around People Who Push You Out Of Your Comfort Zone

 “Surround yourself with those who only lift you higher.” – Oprah Winfrey

You will grow only when you step out of your comfort zone. Successful and ambitious people spend their time learning, attending workshops, and taking calculated risks. Successful people expose themselves to a different perspective and always think outside the box. As I said, when you surround yourself with successful people, you observe how they work, and learn from them.

Stepping out of your comfort zone can be challenging but it is worth it. People who encourage you to step out of your comfort zone are the people you need to spend time with rather than people who believe in living inside a bubble, in relative comfort.

Final Thoughts

It’s not easy to let go of habits you’re most comfortable with but to grow and progress, changes need to be made. Instead of spending time with people with hardly any ambition, try surrounding yourself with positive and successful people. You’ll see a positive change in your life once you do that.

Don’t limit yourself, be open to new possibilities, and challenging opportunities. Meet new people who not only encourage you but also motivate you to be your own person.

The next time you wonder about reaching success, take a look at the people around you. Are they giving out positive energies or are draining your energy? Do you need to step away from them?

I hope this article helped you understand the importance of surrounding yourself with positive people and how to do it. Found this article helpful? Do let us know your thoughts in the comments below!

Take Care! Stay Positive!

About The Author

Swarnakshi Sharma
Swarnakshi Sharma

Swarnakshi is a content writer at Calm sage, who believes in a healthier lifestyle for mind and body. A fighter and survivor of depression, she strives to reach and help spread awareness on ending the stigma surrounding mental health issues. A spiritual person at heart, she believes in destiny and the power of Self. She is an avid reader and writer and likes to spend her free time baking and learning about world cultures.


  1. Rev Eric Ojong
    Rev Eric Ojong

    This is seriously helpful and it has changed my perspective and perceptions about life. Thank you very much. I look forward for more from you

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