Four Types Of Intimacy- PS: Forming A Better Connection

Last Update on September 14, 2021 : Published on September 14, 2021
Types of Intimacy

If I ask you, what’s your concept of intimacy, I bet you are going to say it’s all about forming relationships physically or with a sense of touch or a sense of intimate touch. But, do you really think that physical intimacy will help you in forming a long-lasting and deep relationship with your partner?

According to Merriam-Webster, physical intimacy is defined as “something of a personal or private nature.” Even this definition directly tells us that physical intimacy is not enough for forming a better relationship with the person you want to spend your whole life with.

In order to form a better, long-lasting, and healthy relationship, you might want to take the help of all four types of intimacy. In this blog, I have covered four types of intimacy along with how to form a better and long-lasting relationship with the help of the combination of these intimacies. So, let’s get started.

What is Intimacy in a Relationship?

Intimacy in a Relationship

Intimacy is not only about forming a physical relationship but is also about being close, supported, and emotionally connected. Intimacy in a relationship is all about sharing your feelings, experiences, and thoughts with each other without any fear. Intimacy means being open towards each other’s emotions and thoughts, being vulnerable, and sharing your hopes and dreams with each other.

Intimacy is not god-gifted; it is built slowly with time, patience, and constant efforts from both sides. It’s a reward in a relationship. Basically, there are four types of intimacy i.e. physical, spiritual, emotional, and mental. However, intimacy can be financial, creative, intellectual, recreational, and renovating as well.

Four Types of Intimacy

1. Emotional Intimacy

Emotional intimacy is all about forming and cultivating closeness with each other through respect, communication, and empathy. Emotional intimacy is formed with time but when formed completely, it means your relationship is quite stable with your partner. To establish emotional intimacy in your relationship, you will have to work on three parts:

  • Take it slow
  • Keep it simple
  • Share your feelings, thoughts, and experiences

Additionally, whenever you try to share your feelings, make sure you have thoughtfully processed all your feelings and contextualized all your emotions so that you can communicate effectively with your partner.

2. Mental Intimacy

Mental intimacy is pure bliss as it is related to the meeting of the minds. Mental intimacy is the most satisfying, stimulating, and challenging intimacy out of all intimacies. Since everyone loves to challenge their partner and be in sync with their partners, mental intimacy is pure bliss.

Mental intimacy is all about great talks about any topic like movies, career, political views, food choices, and whatnot. When you have someone that fuels up with your thoughts, it causes mental intimacy. Mental intimacy can be seen within business partners, colleagues, students, game partners, and more.

3. Spiritual Intimacy

Spiritual intimacy is quite tricky because it’s kind of rare. If you and your partner share the same values in terms of spirituality or spiritual connection consider yourself lucky. Spiritual intimacy is all about sharing the same code of ethics or values with different forms.

According to a psychologist, “If your partner is not spiritually inclined, find spiritual intimacy by expressing to your partner what your spirituality means to you, how it makes you a better person or gives more meaning to your life.”

If your partner is not spiritual and you really need to maintain the connection, you can try connecting in a moment of quiet and poignant so that you both can understand each other deeply.

4. Physical Intimacy

Physical intimacy is the secondary need and it is not that important to form a close relationship. Physical intimacy is all about relaxing into each other, going with the flow, sharing the best moments with each other, sharing, getting, and giving what comes to your life. It’s all about maintaining excitement, connection, and closeness.

How to build intimacy in a Relationship to Form a Deep connection?

Here are some effective tips which will help you to build an intimate relationship with your partner:

  • Be patient and let your love grow mutually by sharing your dreams and goals.
  • Be open towards your needs in this way you will be able to avoid a lot of misunderstandings with your partner.
  • Respect each other’s needs and differences. In this way, you will be able to understand each other deeply and it will help in growing your relationship.
  • If you still struggle, opt for Couple Counseling.

I hope this blog helps you to understand four types of intimacy apart from physical intimacy or sex. Comment down and share your views on these four types of intimacy. For more such content, connect with us on all social media platforms.

Keep reading and stay healthy!

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About The Author

Aayushi Kapoor
Aayushi Kapoor

Aayushi is a Content Creator at Calm Sage. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Food Technology and a Master's Degree in Clinical Nutrition. Her constant interest in the improvement of mental health, nutrition, and overall wellness embarked upon her career as a “full-time educational writer.” She likes to make an asynchronous connection with her readers. Her mantra for living life is "What you seek is seeking you".

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