Recognizing & Protecting Yourself From Emotional Manipulation
Emotions are vital to us all – whether they are good or bad, negative or positive – they make us feel and connect us with our minds and hearts. You must have heard people saying; “A person wears their heart on their sleeves” This sentence fits people who get emotionally attached to others too quickly.
These people are more prone to emotional manipulation by others than some. Emotional manipulation is when people attempt to influence others by making them feel guilty or embarrassed. This behavior can be hard to escape and can make people feel less of themselves.
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Emotional manipulators usually bring into play mind games to control the other person. A healthy emotional relationship is built on trust, understanding, and respect. If any of these is missing or is manipulated, a relationship can turn toxic.
How To Recognize An Emotional Manipulator
The signs of emotional manipulation can be subtle but there:
1. They insist on meeting at a place of their preference
2. They get close too quickly
3. They exaggerate events and lies
4. They are an emotional bully
5. They make you feel sorry
6. They play down your problems and highlights their own
7. They act like a victim
8. They don’t take responsibility for their actions
9. They always criticize you
10. They use your feelings and insecurities against you.
11. They use guilt trips
12. They are passive-aggressive
13. They give you the “silent treatment”
There are other similar situations where an emotional manipulator can use your emotions against you to control you and bend you to their will. Emotional manipulation may not leave physical scars and marks but it can definitely leave mental scars and can affect your daily life.
How To Stop Emotional Manipulation
Here’s what you need to do to protect yourself from emotional manipulation:
1. Don’t Accept an Easy Apology
An emotional manipulator will always be ready with an automatic apology on their lips. To avoid manipulation, don’t accept their apology immediately. Confront them with your feelings on the matter and ask questions.
2. Listen to Your Gut
Your gut is almost never wrong. Understanding and being aware of your surroundings is important. Trust your feelings and yourself first. If you’re doubting yourself, a manipulator will use that against you. Pay attention to what the other person is saying and how they are acting.
3. Actions Speak Louder than Words
The phrase “actions speak louder than words” is very important in this scenario. Don’t believe when someone says something unless they act upon it. Base your feelings on what someone does rather than what someone says.
4. Learn to say NO
You are NOT the problem. Learn to be assertive and say no when you don’t want to do something a manipulative person asks you to do. You have to remember to set your priorities and say NO without feeling guilty.
5. Take back your power
When an emotional manipulator insists on breaking your set boundaries – stand up, speak up, and take back your power. A manipulative person is just like a bully. You need to be smart and strong and stand up against them. When you refuse to bend to their will and show your emotional strength, they will have no choice but to back down.
Emotional manipulation can leave long-lasting marks on your mental and emotional health. It is NOT healthy. An emotional manipulator will use your emotions and feelings against you and will make you feel guilty for actions you don’t need to feel guilty about.
Keep a lookout for an emotional manipulator and remember that you are your own person. No one should hold power over you.
If you or someone you know are a victim of emotional manipulation, consult a professional healthcare provider. No one deserves to be emotionally manipulated. It’s okay to seek treatment and help from someone professional.
“Half of the people lie with their lips; the other half with their tears” – Nassim Nicholas Taleb
Stay happy, stay healthy!