The Vicious Cycle Of Self-Betrayal

Last Update on September 23, 2020 : Published on September 23, 2020
The Vicious Cycle of Self-Betrayal

The relationship of you and your inner soul defines your inner peace. A positive mindset establishes peace and happiness. However, the only thing which comes between your roads to peace is self-betrayal.

Self-betrayal results in anxiety and depression. Self-betrayal takes us nowhere and even the consequences of self-betrayal. In this blog, I have shared three ways to stop self-betraying and shift your relationship with yourself in a more peaceful state and learn befriending.

Three ways to take the control on Self-betrayal

1.Be Gentle towards yourself

Be Gentle towards yourself

This may sound a little personal, but have you ever taken proper care of your mental health like you do of your physical health. Let me tell you, mental health is important as physical health.

Ask yourself some questions in terms of your mental health… “Is it okay to feel this way, am I okay, am I keeping myself happy, am I living in a peaceful state, am I doing everything for my inner peace and happiness. If your answer is yes, congratulations! You’re doing so well…more power to you.

If your answer is no, my suggestion to you is stop being harsh on yourself. I know it sounds easy but really hard to do. However, consistency is all we need to achieve these small goals right! Furthermore, talking more about inner peace, I think the major problem arises when someone else tries to enter their “judgment” in our lives. Ask yourself, if really their judgment really matters to you… I can hear your answer!

Moving towards positive affirmations and gentle self-care are one of the ways to stop the cycle of self-betraying and adapting befriending. Herein, get up, show up, slay, and do not let someone else’s opinion come in between. Learn to live your life on your own terms.

2.Take baby steps and learn

Take baby steps and learn

Do not go on the heading, it might look easy to you but it has a lot to do with polishing yourself. Are you ready?

To begin with, how many times we betray ourselves in order to help other people. Hold on to my point and tell me is it okay to betray yourself. Mark my point that whenever you betray your inner self, you are also betraying those people as well.

Staying true to yourself is the first baby step to stop the vicious cycle of self-betrayal. When you start with small things and do whatever your soul tells you to do, you take yourself to another level of inner peace and happiness.

Sometimes, speaking what your heart is telling you is super uncomfortable or might sound impossible to you. Think about it, you are here justifying yourself, you are shielding yourself from all the negativities around. Don’t worry, take a step for yourself because speaking what your heart is telling you is a worth taking step.

Setting boundaries and communicating your needs is the bravest thing to do. It may sound impossible but it is better than betraying yourself for others. Real peace takes place in your body and mind only when you are developing positive and strong relationships with others.

3.Start taking your stand

Start taking your stand

Actual peace and happiness only takes place only when you start being yourself and start taking stand of yourself.

If you are not living your life to the fullest, you might be missing out on a lot of peace and happiness. Like I literally crave to live my life with a meaning, passion, burning desire, and purpose… don’t you!

The moment you start working on your dreams, peace somehow makes its own cozy space in your mind and body. If not, let’s do a practical, take one day and spend your time on working on your actual goals and yourself. At the end of the day, ask yourself if it was worth doing for! I can again hear all your answers!

Consider each and every day as an opportunity, do not betray yourself, and take your stand. Start living your life with providing yourself inner peace and happiness.

I hope this blog helps you to stop the vicious cycle of Self-betrayal. Comment down and let us know what kind of thoughts lead you toward self-betrayal and how these three ways works for you. For more such content, follow Calm Sage on all social media platforms.

Thanks for reading.

More power to you!

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About The Author

Aayushi Kapoor
Aayushi Kapoor

Aayushi is a Content Creator at Calm Sage. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Food Technology and a Master's Degree in Clinical Nutrition. Her constant interest in the improvement of mental health, nutrition, and overall wellness embarked upon her career as a “full-time educational writer.” She likes to make an asynchronous connection with her readers. Her mantra for living life is "What you seek is seeking you".


  1. Akanksha

    Thanks for sharing on this important topic.

  2. Aditi Singh
    Aditi Singh

    Many of us have to deal with energies of self destruction. After reading your post I am more aware now about this thing.

  3. Kerin

    Honestly, this was much needed at the moment. Thanks, girl for writing this.

  4. Harshita Singh Chauhan
    Harshita Singh Chauhan

    Self-betrayal! This word scares me :( Thanks for sharing.

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